People often associate the holidays with joy, laughter, and cherished memories. However, this time of year can be overwhelming and stressful for those who struggle with perfectionism. Maybe it’s having picture-perfect decorations, finding that perfect gift, looking flawless, or creating cherished family gatherings. All of the pressure to meet unrealistic expectations can cause unnecessary stress.
Perfectionism, characterized by an unrelenting pursuit of high standards, can be exhausting and, research shows, it can have a profound impact on all aspects of your life. By letting go of perfectionism during the holidays, your mental and emotional well-being will thank you. It’s possible to enjoy the holidays with gratitude and contentment as you shift your mindset to release the grip of perfectionism.
10 Ways to Release Perfectionism
1. Recognize the illusion of perfection: Perfectionism is an elusive goal that often leads to disappointment. Social media often exacerbates perfectionism, but no holiday season will ever be flawless. The constant exposure to carefully curated, seemingly perfect lives on social media makes people believe perfectionism is possible and expected. Such exposure contributes to feelings of inadequacy. To cope, consider a digital detox for a specific period of time.
2.Set realistic expectations: Instead of striving for perfection, set realistic expectations for yourself and others. Understand that everyone has their own limits. It’s alright if things don’t go exactly as planned. Focus on creating an atmosphere of love and connection rather than chasing perfection.
3. Practice self-compassion: Be kind to yourself and practice self-compassion, especially during the holidays. Start caring for yourself emotionally, physically, and financially the way you would care for someone you love.
4. Demonstrating love for yourself in your thoughts, actions, and choices will lead to higher self-worth and confidence. Give yourself permission to make mistakes and learn from them.
5. Prioritize what truly matters: Take a step back and reflect on what truly matters to you during the holiday season. Is it a perfectly decorated house? The extravagant gifts? Or is it the time spent with loved ones, creating joyful memories? Remind yourself of your priorities and let go of the unnecessary pressure to meet unrealistic standards.
6. Embrace the beauty of imperfection: Imperfections can often hold an unexpected beauty. Having the courage to show up and be seen, imperfections and all, brings many blessings; we gain confidence and experience and become capable of more. During the holidays, embrace the uniqueness of handcrafted decorations, homemade treats, and imperfectly wrapped presents. These imperfections add a personal touch and remind us of the love and effort put into creating them.
7. Practice gratitude: Cultivate a grateful mindset during the holidays. Take a moment each day to reflect on what you are grateful for, whether it’s the warmth of your home, the laughter of loved ones, or the simple pleasures in life. Gratitude shifts our focus from what is lacking to what is present, fostering contentment and a sense of fulfillment.
8. Quit comparing yourself to others: Social media and the constant bombardment of holiday perfection can lead to unhealthy comparisons. Remember that what is portrayed online is often a curated highlight reel. Instead of comparing yourself to others, focus on your own unique experiences and cherish the moments that bring you joy.
9. Take care of yourself: Prioritize self-care and well-being during the holiday season. Set aside time for relaxation, meditation, or engaging in activities that bring you joy. By caring for yourself, you’ll be better equipped to enjoy the holidays with gratitude and contentment.
10. Embrace spontaneity and flexibility: Be open to unexpected moments and go with the flow. Sometimes, the most memorable moments are the ones that were not meticulously planned. Embracing spontaneous experiences and being flexible in your expectations allow you to enjoy the holiday season with a sense of adventure and ease.
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