In her latest book, Love Every Day, clinical psychologist and relationship expert Alexandra H. Solomon, Ph.D., offers a full year’s worth of daily insights and reminders about the realities of love and life that can either help or hurt intimate relationships.
More than a simple self-help guide, Love Every Day traces the common and not-so-common problems partners face back to their causal roots and asks you to explore what might happen if you took different approaches to resolving conflicts.
To get started, you can find the page for the current date, or you can flip through the pages to find guidance and potential solutions for whatever relationship issue you are struggling with at the time.
Solomon’s refreshing approach to intimacy and partnership includes specific advice to people of all sexual and gender identities while recognizing that individuals and relationships within any category of identity are unique. As such, you may relate more to some experiences and dynamics than others.
While providing powerful tools for communication and exploration, Solomon implores you to cultivate what she calls “relational self-awareness” by truthfully answering the questions she puts forth and considering the alternative responses and solutions she offers to get your relationship back on track.
She defines relational self-awareness as taking responsibility for how you participate in and contribute to the dynamics of your most important relationships by developing a relationship with yourself that is both curious and compassionate.
According to Solomon, it is only by developing this open and honest relationship with ourselves that we can contribute to the foundation of a loving and thriving partnership with someone else.
Love every day: what does it mean when you hug yourself?
Hugs are a way to show love and support for people we care about, especially in tough times. In this same way, hugging yourself is a way to help nurture your sense of self-care.
Is hugging yourself a coping mechanism?
Giving yourself a hug is one coping strategy that can help children rebuild a sense of safety. Trauma—the physical and emotional responses of a child to events that threaten their lives or the physical or emotional wellness of themselves or of someone critically important to them—can have lasting effects.
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